We often try to find a compromise in conflict situations: to remain silent somewhere, not to argue when our boundaries are violated, not to cry (even if you really want to). And when we no longer have the strength, we boil with anger. After such an outburst, shame and remorse inevitably roll in. We experience an oppressive feeling of guilt, and all these emotions grow in us like a snowball. And next time we try even harder to save face – and so on ad infinitum.

In his new book, Osho draws attention to this paradox, which arises due to the fact that we strive to please, to be comfortable with others. He suggests abandoning the division of emotions into good and bad. Acknowledge your feelings, without looking back at the stereotypes that you should always be collected, calm and aware.

“The power of anger is healing. If there is no rage and anger, then forgiveness will be completely tasteless, absolutely lifeless, dead.”

Osho